Summary of If Thou Must Love Me by Elizabeth Barrett Browning

Sonnets from Portuguese is a collection of 44 sonnets written by Elizabeth Barrett Browning during the years 1845-1846 and published in 1850. The sonnets have been very popular since their publication.
Elizabeth Browning was a Victorian poet whose poetry was very popular in England as well as in the United States. All her sonnets revolve around her intense love for her would-to-be husband Robert Browning.

If Thou Must Love Me is one of the sonnets from Elizabeth Browning collection of sonnets, Sonnets from Portuguese.
(Lines 1-9) The poem begins with the poet asking her lover not to love her love’s sake but love her honestly and unconditionally. She tells him not to love her superficially but genuinely. Moreover, she tells her lover not to love her for her looks or smile which will fade with time (line 3). She then tells him not to love her the way she talks or because she has a soothing voice. She doesn’t want him to love her for her qualities which would give him satisfaction just for a day. She is referring out here that there is much more to love than just what appears at face value. She believes that if her lover loves her for her qualities, someday his love would vanish when her superficial qualities would fade away.


(Lines 10-14) The next succeeding lines are about the poet telling her lover not to love her out of sympathy of pity. She says this because she knows that she ‘might forget to weep’ and therefore there won’t be any tears on her cheeks to be wiped off by her man. Then her man would stop loving her. The poet has used ‘creature’ instead of using ‘herself’ to compare herself with a pitiful animal.
In the last two lines of the poem, she replicates how she wants to be loved for love’s sake so that she is being loved all throughout, no matter what qualities of her fade in time. She wants a love that should last for an eternity.

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If thou must love me, let it be for nought
Except for love’s sake only. Do not say
‘I love her for her smile—her look—her way
Of speaking gently,—for a trick of thought
That falls in well with mine, and certes brought
A sense of pleasant ease on such a day’—
For these things in themselves, Beloved, may
Be changed, or change for thee,—and love, so wrought,
May be unwrought so. Neither love me for
Thine own dear pity’s wiping my cheeks dry,—
A creature might forget to weep, who bore
Thy comfort long, and lose thy love thereby!
But love me for love’s sake, that evermore
Thou mayst love on, through love’s eternity

In this sonnet, If Thou Must Love Me, the poet expresses her earnest desire about how she wants her lover, Robert Browning to love her. This also shows that Barrett Browning was of demanding nature and she expected a lot from her lover.

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    Shivam Kumar August 21, 2014 at 12:15 pm


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    annu November 30, 2014 at 3:58 pm

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    Maharsh sanghvi January 4, 2015 at 3:25 pm

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    Patel Rushi January 22, 2015 at 4:10 am

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      dev mathhur February 29, 2016 at 10:25 am

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    Angel January 24, 2015 at 5:27 pm

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    KeerthiRaja December 23, 2015 at 7:26 am

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    Ayslina Albert March 1, 2016 at 5:05 am

    Amazing poem just love it

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    Shruti May 10, 2016 at 4:37 am

    Its really a great summary it help me a lot to understand the poem thoroughly.Thank u so much.

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    R mathew June 2, 2016 at 5:40 am

    Helped me a lot. Thank you for the summary?

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    muddegowda June 3, 2016 at 12:39 pm

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    Tejesh Bhaumik June 17, 2016 at 4:39 pm

    Shouldn’t it be love for love’s sake and not the opposite?

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    chandra prakash June 26, 2016 at 9:10 am

    Thank u trisha . It helped my daughter a lot .its really understandable

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    Arnab Chattopadhyay July 17, 2016 at 11:17 am

    Nice simple summary.

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    rakesh singh September 19, 2016 at 2:02 pm

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    Atharva January 23, 2017 at 11:35 am

    Thanks Trisha . Great Summary for my exams.

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    Atharva January 23, 2017 at 11:37 am

    Quite Helpful

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    trisha March 14, 2017 at 12:20 pm

    in the starting line you have said ‘The poem begins with the poet asking her lover not to love her love’s sake’ but dosen’t she want her lover to love her for loves sake only?
    that confused me otherwise the poem is beautifully explained

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